Tuesday, March 5, 2013

“It’s Not Your Fault” Book Review & Giveaway

Thanks to MomSelect I got the opportunity to read a great book by Steve Shenk, It's Not Your Fault and I Can Prove it.

Steve Shenk is a food expert and founder of the eFoodsDirect gourmet storable food company, and he used his experiences with many different people to write his very inspiring book.

On top of being a mom of four, I also go to school full time, and I was worried about committing to reading and reviewing a book on a time schedule, but I love to read, and decided I could do it.  Well, once I started the book, it was very easy to finish.

I really enjoyed the style of writing, he makes his points very relevant to the reader and easy to understand. 

Steve Shenk takes you through his book with the voices of Michael, the student, and The Guardian, a wise teacher.  Michael would represent most of us,  going through life making decisions on life choices and relationships.  The Guardian reanalyzes these choices with Michael and shows him how to take a different perspective on his views, and how that new perspective can save him from dealing with unpleasant feeling in life, such as guilt, anxiety, stress, depression, fear, misery and pain.

The Guardian shows Michael the steps to take to go back to our first instincts of happiness, joy, success, and peace.  The Guardian takes Michael step by step in showing him how to recognize the "Trash" that clutters his life, and how to remove it from his life.

The book is full of wisdom quotes from the Guardian, which I really enjoyed reading.  One of my favorites was:

"A most important law that we all must remember is that when someone acts or speaks in a negative was toward us it is never about us, it is always about them. Believe it. It is always about them. Think about it."  The Guardian.

A major point in the book is for us to forget about the past, to move forward, and to stop looking for blame.  Everyone makes mistakes, the Guardian helps you forgive yourself.

I really found this book inspiring in many ways.  I found it easy to relate to, and after reading this book I love that I don't feel too overwhelmed about making positive changes in my life.

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Disclosure: I received a free copy of the book, thanks to MomSelect, in order to write my review, all opinions are 100% mine.


  1. I like to read all kinds of books and this looks like it would help through hard times
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  2. tiffany courtright(courtright1985@yahoo.com)March 10, 2013 at 7:50 AM

    I enjoy reading self-help or similar books!

  3. I like that it focuses on forgiving yourself and moving on. Sounds like something I would like to read. kristiedonelson(at)gmail(dot)com Thank you.

  4. Many things interest me about this book. 1 I have only feel drawn to self improvement and inspirational or spiritual type books since I was 10 and my husband enjoys me reading them aloud to him as well. 2. THE TITLE of this book, immediately caught my attention and pulled at my heart strings and made me feel a STRONG compulsion to click to read more about it. Because 3. A. In my past I was 100% totally the opposite person I am now and have done things I have such overwhelming shame and regret over that just the thought of those things and someday facing God and loved ones in heaven over them brings me to tears everytime. This haunts and tortures me. B. In present time I suffer from severe extreme anxiety, panic, post traumatic stress, and depression and intense guilt and I want and need someone to be able to convince me "It's not my fault and prove it to me."

    Thank you for this opportunity, I hope I win bc I feel like I seriously NEED this.


    1. Yvonne, I have struggled with horrific shame in my life and I feel your pain. I constantly prayed for forgiveness and, of course, if we love our Savior, He has already given it to us. What He did for me, allowing me to just think of a couple of sins at a time, and seek His forgiveness for them, helped me get past my past.

    2. Tiffany,

      Bless your precious heart, it is very kind of you to reach out in comfort and reassurance to me. While I DO believe God forgives me,bc I know he KNOWS my heart and how intensely sorry I am.BUT.. I am SO ashamed that It bothers me to face Him knowing he even KNOWS about it. And worry that others in heaven will know too bc then I would feel ashamed and humiliated even if forgiven. That's the part I can't get over.

  5. Like you (& most moms) I don't have a lot of time, but love to read, an easy read book is all that I have time for! I also enjoy reading books that are inspiring and/or focus on self-help. I have room for improvement and this books sounds great!

  6. I would love to read this book and pass it around to all my mommy friends who need a little encouragement sometimes.

  7. I am very interested in this book because I have problems with forgiving myself for some of my mistakes.

  8. I tend to dwell on my mistakes so this book would be great for me.

  9. going back to our first instinct of joy.

  10. I love psychology, and I'm also in need of a new book =)

  11. I love the lesson to be learned with this book. We should all learn to forgive!


  12. I'd like to read the interaction between the student and the teacher!

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  13. I like learning about different aspects of the human mind!
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  14. The title is so funny at catchy, but I have been plagued with Catholic guilt all my life.